How could I forget the day that he didn’t die.
That day he knew. He had this smile in his eye.
Made sure he told me what he had to say.
There’s no way I could forget him or ever forget the day.
And then later on in the afternoon after saying good bye to us.
He went out with his friends, the one’s he could trust.
He died on that day – time to let his family be.
Living the Dave way was the last lesson he gave to me.
You gotta love how he lived. How he was loved and admired.
A knack. A certain flare for life. And how he had it wired.
He’d never give up. He wouldn’t give in.
He had a wonderful way of livin.
There’s not been a day. Not one hasn’t gone by.
When I don’t think about the day he didn’t die.
I really miss him. He would have loved this. I hope he can hear me.
So I was thinking the other day it’s coming up on 23 years since my father Brian Kenneth Savage died. I’ll have to check on the day but I think it was May 1986. It’s strange because I was about 13 or 14 when he died and yet he seems so much older and smarter than I was then. My mother has given me some of his identification cards, drivers license, firearm permit, college ID and passport over the years but it never hit me until recently that he died at the age of 36. My brothers and I were 13, 9 and 7 years old when he died. My son Jakob is 6 1/2. I’m 37 now. What a weird time.
So I managed to live longer than my father has and it seems strange as if I am on borrowed time. My father and I share many traits in life and our careers. Height, body type, career, bad eating habits and for me lately lack of exercise. So at this point in my life I can see that we both work long hours and don’t take care of ourselves as best as we can. Of course doctors and family members say that I need to get in better shape and I feel healthy most of the time but I do have type 2 diabetes basically from my weight. Currently I weigh 350 pounds. About six years ago I weighed 295 pounds and was in very good shape. I was the strongest I’ve ever been in my life and I could run 5 miles in about 35 to 40 minutes and I did that fairly often. After our son was born, I spent more time with our new baby then I did taking care of myself and maintaining my health and fitness. I think my relationship with my wife also began to change at this time. But that’s another post.