The Hardest Part of Holding On Is Letting Go
To “let go” means not to worry about the future, but look forward to what might happen
To “let go” does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To “let go” is not to cut myself off, it’s the realization I can’t control another.
To “let go” is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To “let go” is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To “let go” is not to try to change or blame another, it’s to make the most of myself.
To “let go” is not to care for, but to care about.
To “let go” is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To “let go” is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To “let go” is not to be in the middle arranging the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
To “let go” is not to be protective, it’s to permit another to face reality.
To “let go” is not to deny, but to accept.
To “let go” it not to intrude, worry or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings, and correct them.
To “let go” is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
To “let go” is to fear less, and love more.
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letting go of her is so impossible right now. letting go of the questions not yet answered i could choose, yes. but will not in her honor. her death, the tragedy for not only my family and her friends, but of the other 3 families. the empty gaps in yet another story so much more profound and sacred, another story whose telling will not be propelled by me, but rather by torri, from so very far away.
I was thinking more about my own family but yes this fits in with you. I’m very sorry.
Letting go is a slow process, there are many stages to go threw. Denial, Anger,regret and acceptance. and they all dont happen in that order. But just as long as you remember YOU aren’t the one who chose to be this way. and you will be happy again some day!
Letting go takes the courage to make a needed change even though you know it’s going to hurt like hell.
Sometimes the hardest part of letting go is not what you are giving up at the moment but what has already been gone for a long time… the sadness comes because you are just now realizing you were only holding onto a memory of what once was.
“Sometimes the hardest part of letting go is not what you are giving up at the moment but what has already been gone for a long time… the sadness comes because you are just now realizing you were only holding onto a memory of what once was.”… or what could’ve been.
I don’t doubt that you loved him once, I just can fathom just waking up one day and not loving my husband, my best friend and the father of my children.
I hope someday you can look back and say you did the right thing.
He loves you!
I left someone and totally went off the hook with dating and drinkin. Then I realized that I had a past and a future with some one who’s the bomb and I needed her back
prob was that she was seeing someone else and said she’s happy now. I burned myself and a great chic.
Prince:
Love can suck! It is the hardest word to define.
Sometimes you need to lose a good thing to appreciate the next.
Keep your eyes and heart open and the next good girl that comes along you will know better! Sorry for your loss.
I’m not real sure who you are Tina, but your statement about “waking up one day and not loving my husband” is way off base.
It’s good to see that you have words of encouragement for Ken. That really is great but please don’t speak about me in a way that makes it seem like you know anything about me or how I feel.
My post wasn’t a response to yours, I still check out this site and I was just commenting like everyone else on the topic of letting go.
Good morning all
this is none of my biz but I would like to know if I can quote some of these lines of yours
we love this one
“To “let go†it not to intrude, worry or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings, and correct them.”
good luck and ONE LOVE
Erin,
Your post was right after mine I just assumed it was a direct comment. Sorry.
CAT FIGHT!!!!
Let’s see a good battle of the mouths here.
Sorry to dissapoint ya Prince, there will be no cat fighting going on here.
We’re “letting it go”
I love my baby’s mama!
You guys made good comments about letting a person go. Can anyone help me please? I am in the process of remembering the memories of how good it felt waking up in the morning and that person you love was actually looking at you and when you open your eyes, you got yourself a wonderful smile. And somewhere along the way, he realized that you’re one hell of a strong person in character and personality and it scared him off and had gone AWOL. Love could make one stupid sometimes.
Hi, can anyone help me? My x just sent me a msg saying: I’m getting married early next year. It just hurts me a lot ‘coz I still love him. I told him, if he’s happy with it, then I’m happy for him. But deep inside me, I wanna scream and hope that I’ll be the girl he’s gonna marry… He once told me that he still loves me but we already have each other’s gf/bf. I don’t have anything against my bf. he loves me a lot and would do anything just to make me smile. My x also loves his gf but still wants to see me. I really don’t know what to do… anyone pls?
letting go is bullshit!!
Letting go of love is not fair, especially when you’re both deeply in love with each other. How can something so rare be so neccessary to let go of. This is what everyone lives for, love, and to let go of what you live for is like letting go of life itself.
letting go is bullshit..how can i let go of someone his the center of my life even he can never be longer mine!!im in deeply feel of so much pain..
letting you go baby is one way of showing how much i love you, i know in time we’ll be together again. sorry for the mistakes ive done when were together, i never meant to hurt you.. i love you so much bhie, missing you like crazy. im still here, and il wait till everyhtings okay.. -04
I am in the process of letting go. I know of nothing so deep, so intense and so painful, and yet, so right. I have always heard that “if you love something, set it free”, this is the first time I have loved so much I have put them before myself. It is her time to fly and my time to set her free. I just pray that one day she wil grow weary and will fly back to the one that loves her enough to respect her for who she is and who she will become. I love you, Patti. This is for you:
The Reflection of a Tear
01/12/08
The reflection of a tear as it leaves your eye
Could be for a mistake or a last goodbye
As it drips on your cheek it feels so warm
Releasing its pain from which it was born
It grows so cold as it traces down your face
Seems to always be more to keep up the chase
It falls to the floor in an endless stream
Breaking open as if to shatter the dream
Soon they are all gone, all used up, not even a trickle
Your mind regroups, catches itself, you recenter
Left is but a glint of light from the reflection on your cheek
Hidden deep within it is the hope and peace we seek
It is always good to openly cry
It makes you stop and wonder why
And in that… is the growing from the pain!
letting go is so hard. someone help me please my wife left me and I still love her.
how can I let go of someone who I still hope that she’ll come back
Hi oz40. I’m sorry your wife left you. My bf split with me two weeks ago and it’s been hard to let go. I was hanging on to the relationship for a bit, but decided to let him go completely. It hurts. I cried everyday for 2 weeks. And even now I’m bleeding in the inside. But I realize that if he’s the right one for me, he’ll be back. If he doesn’t come back then it was never meant to be.
I am losing the love of my life. We have the kind of love that only exists once in a lifetime. Now he is leaving me. This is the worst pain I have ever felt in my life. We still love each other. What I can’t live with is all of the memories.. the memories that will never fade.. and could never be replaced. If he still loves me.. then why is he doing this? I just need to find a way to let go of the only thing that’s ever brought pure happiness to my life.
Alyssa, I have the same feeling.. I had a prettiest girl ever who was the love of my life. We had plans to marry one day, get kids, get a house, the whole nine yards. She said the sweetest things to me that I have ever heard and she made me confident about myself. I gave up everything to be with her. The love faded away and it feels like I will blame myself forever for that. We decided to break up over 1,5 months ago now (which of course I later regretted) and I still think of her every single second. It’s the most horrible time in my life which I enforce by thinking of all the good memories. The memories where we kiss and make up. The bad times, they just come to fall. It’s killing me, so I try to focus on other stuff. That works only a little bit.
The hardest part is that she has moved on, gotten over me almost completely, and is already dating other guys. The feeling this gives me is the most painful I have ever felt. I know things will get better, but that isn’t helping me at this time.
Letting go? It MUST be done when you realise there is no hope. And if your ex isn’t giving you hope, believe me people, it is NOT going to work out in the end. Hope will keep your mind occupied, it’s for the wicked. Hope is the opposite of letting go.
I have got major ups and downs nowadays. Some days I wake up from dreaming about still being in a relationship with this girl. Then I realize it’s over and it feels like I’m stuck in a nightmare. From that moment, the first moment of my day, the day is already f*cked completely. Other days, when I keep myself occupied, talk to people, I feel a lot better.
I have made up my mind. Love is the most powerful emotion I have ever felt. It has made me the happiest of my life, but it has also made me sadder than I could ever imagine. I have cried more in the last month than I have cried as a baby.
Letting go. It’s two f*cking words, easy to write. Almost impossible to do.
i am also in that situation..
im just started to feel the hardest situation,because i just cant accept that i am losing him… i really love him we had so many plans in out life, to get marry nxt year had a baby.but we had a fight he always jealous, so i give him a lesson but instead of fixing the problem he found a new love…
its my fault, i let him found another love..
why.. he just throe the things we had..
how can i move on..
My boyfriend cheated on me 2 months into our relationship. I’ve stayed with him but I never got over it, now I’m leaving, I’m letting him go. Its the hardest thing I have had to do in my entire life, I dont even know if i will make it through this. I cannot stay with him but being without him is just as bad. I just cannot live with what happened in the past.
LETTING GO IS BULLSHIT…..
I LEARNED TO LAUGH, I LEARNED TO CRY,BUT WILL I EVER LEARN TO SAY GOODBYE.?
he SAID..HE LOVES ME..AND LETTING GO OF ME WOULD ME LIKE GOD TAKING HIS LIFE..I WOULD NOT WANT TO LET GO, BUT HE’S TELLING ME THAT IT IS’NT WORKING,.. ACCORDING TO HIM, HE WAS JUST BEING HONEST AND I MUST NOT FEEL SAD AND HOPELESS..I KNOW THINGS GONNA WORK AND THESE BULLSHIT ARGUEMENTS WILL SLOWLY FADE..HOPE I WOULD NOT AND WOULD NEVER END UP CRYING BECAUSE OF MY ONE TRUE LOVE..IT HURTS.. :[
I was in a relationship with a boy for 4 years. i loved him with my whole heart. he was my bestfriend. we did everything other, then one day out of nowhere, he breaks up with me. I was devestated. I cried for months, i didnt sleep, i didnt eat, i didnt do anything besides cry. letting go isnt easy, but sometimes we just have to do it. Its hard enough to hold onto things, but tryin to hold onto something that isnt there, makes no sense. It took a long time, but i finally realized that love is about making someone happy. I just wanted him to be happy, so i let him go. I let him have his life. Do i miss him, yes every single day. But sometimes you just cant dwell on the past and just live for the future. We had a great 4 years together and ill carry those memories forever, but i think i owe it to myself to make new memories with someone else. There are somethings that you can change in life, but when it comes down to things you cant change, its just better off to leave them alone. letting go isnt something you can just do, it takes TIME. but in time things always get better. You dont forget, you just forgive, and make the best out of the life you have left.
“letting go doesn’t mean I stopped caring…it means I care more than ever.”
Letting go is not easy but it will make you tough for the next relationship that you will be in, so don’t loose hope, make your life full of LOVE. Everyone deserves it!
Letting go is not that easy..You have to be strong enough..It doesn’t mean that you don’t love him anymore but instead you want him to be happy and be free…
I just had a big fight w/ my husband, it’s so weird. Everything was going great then one day he woke in a bad mood, we argued back and forth then it got to abuse. he said he wanted time apart from me. He said he tired of being home with the kids when i go to school at night, he put me down. We haven’t fought this way in a yr, but this time was different, i’m thinking of letting him go. Maybe we have just grown apart. I look back and don’t understand why we stay together, i really thought we were done with these type of arguements, but then i look at our 3 boys and think I got to make this work for them. what do i do?
I dont know where this quote came from but its a good reminder…
NEVER MAKE SOMEONE YOUR PRIORITY WHO MAKES YOU ONLY AN OPTION
or something like that
TRULY, IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE THEN SET THEM FREE! “TO LOVE SOMEONE IS NOTHING, TO BE LOVED BY SOMEONE IS SOMETHING BUT TO BE LOVED BY THE ONE YOU LOVE IS EVERYTHING”
Sometimes.. you just have to let go even it hurts a thousand times
LETTING GO IS REALLY HARD…COZ NO MATTER HOW YOU HOLD ON TO SOMEONE, IF THEY’RE NOT REALLY MEANT FOR YOU, YOU HAVE TO MOVE ON THOUGH IT HURTS SO MUCH…
necessary losses
I would like to add that some of you are arguing about whether letting go is good or not – like someone said “its bullshit”.
What I would like to emphasize is that letting go is necessary sometimes and so you have to do it.
If you want to be good at the skill of holding on, then be good at letting go. Otherwise, you’re not only holding on to what’s not meant to be.
Time heals all wounds? Im not finding that to be entirely true. At this moment I wish my love would of walked away- told me he loved me no more- better that than in the grave- it would of been better to see him smile at another just to see him smile again- time heals? but when?
Hi, I have a problem, and don’t kn. what to do. I have built these walls up and decided I was done with the hurt and the tears and that I would never fall in love again. That was eight years ago, and now I met this Man this wonderful amazing man, I have fallen in love with him, he made everything I told myself I wouldn’t do come undone. He loves me this I kn. a 100 % But heres the issue, he is working here till dec. and then he goes back to Cali. but he says he is comming back and he promises as soon as he finishes his boards~ n he also is thinking of just transfering. I want him to stay, but I relize this is selfish, How can I love someone this much yet, ask him to leave everything he kns. and loves and feels confortable with behind? I can’t so I have to let him go~ but I want to be with him still, do I have to say good bye, now? Or should I wait and see where things go? And it Hurts like hell and I cried all night last night, This is the pain I didn’t ever want to feel again, and though yet I am happy.
letting go of the one you love, is like letting go of the other half of you heart. then you’ll know you’ll never be the same again until one day, other person offers the other half of their heart, then you’ll feel complete…
I let go of the relationship I valued most. It’s not because I do not love him anymore, but it’s because I want to love my self more now. I am so tired understanding him…
yes its really sure
yes its really true…
BEING LIKE THIS.. IN A THIRD SEX ITS HARD TO FIND A GIRL THAT TRULLY LOVE YOU… WITH ALL THEIR HEARTS.. IF I FIND SOME.. I REALLY NEVER LET HER GO! WHAT MAY HAPPEN!
Hi, all i can SAY and QUESTION is that
How do you prepare a heart to be broken, or dreams to fall through? How do you let go of a miracle who means everything to you? How do you walk away, with the tears in your eyes…. letting go isn’t easy…
i need your HELP :’(
I was in this relationship this person who made me feel loved, special, and safe but now its over and i have to let go, i need help because i cant let her go
I’m going through this “split minded” issue with myself. I’m still in this relationship with my bf but he’s lied to me enough times in 6 months. We knew eachother since we were kids our parents were best friends (my mom his mom & my dad and his dad)its how we met. Anyways when we got together we were so in love and there is nothing like what we have. Months later things are becoming a disaster he acts psychotic when I want space for myself to read the bible and write my thoughts (in which i love doing) I also have a daughter and go to school so I really need my time we can’t be under eachother everyday. It throws him way off so he goes and hangs out with these other girls, flirts, and it leads to more nonsense. I am Done. Well, apparently I’m not because I wont let him go. Its typical that he comes begging me to stay together and he’s so sorry and explains himself but he’s a liar and a good one so I doubt I will ever trust him again, I think I’m broken but something has me so attached that I’m agreeing to stay with him until I find out what I should do. On part is telling me let him go he is not for ‘you’ he’s garbage and doesn’t know how to manage this connection we have, which is a blessing. Some other part of me is clinging onto him so bad bacause regardless of what happens neither one of us will find a love like this and I’d hate to just throw it away, I’d hate myself for it but I can’t take all this lying and cheating just because I don’t want to be under him all 25/8.
UGH.
How can i let go of this person if letting her go would mean a life and happiness. I have fell for a girl who is 13 years older than me. I am 26 now and we are 2 years supposedly. She is married. That was the saddest part. I always wanted to shout out loud how much i love her but i cant because she is fucking married. I gave up my 4 years relationship for her. I gave her my life. But she is married. Now her husband found out everything. The threats were all there. But i cant do anything because i love her and she is telling me that she loves me too. Now i am not ok. I have tried to let her go before when we had our first break up and i had my gf then but i always come back to her. She is my home. She complete me. She is evrything and if there would be word that would best describe how much i love her it will be her name.