The Hardest Part of Holding On Is Letting Go
To “let go” means not to worry about the future, but look forward to what might happen
To “let go” does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To “let go” is not to cut myself off, it’s the realization I can’t control another.
To “let go” is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To “let go” is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To “let go” is not to try to change or blame another, it’s to make the most of myself.
To “let go” is not to care for, but to care about.
To “let go” is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To “let go” is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To “let go” is not to be in the middle arranging the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
To “let go” is not to be protective, it’s to permit another to face reality.
To “let go” is not to deny, but to accept.
To “let go” it not to intrude, worry or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings, and correct them.
To “let go” is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
To “let go” is to fear less, and love more.
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for torri on Mon, 22nd May 2006 9:01 pm
letting go of her is so impossible right now. letting go of the questions not yet answered i could choose, yes. but will not in her honor. her death, the tragedy for not only my family and her friends, but of the other 3 families. the empty gaps in yet another story so much more profound and sacred, another story whose telling will not be propelled by me, but rather by torri, from so very far away.
Ken Savage on Wed, 24th May 2006 3:24 am
I was thinking more about my own family but yes this fits in with you. I’m very sorry.
Tina on Tue, 13th Jun 2006 10:31 am
Letting go is a slow process, there are many stages to go threw. Denial, Anger,regret and acceptance. and they all dont happen in that order. But just as long as you remember YOU aren’t the one who chose to be this way. and you will be happy again some day!
erin on Tue, 13th Jun 2006 2:12 pm
Letting go takes the courage to make a needed change even though you know it’s going to hurt like hell.
Sometimes the hardest part of letting go is not what you are giving up at the moment but what has already been gone for a long time… the sadness comes because you are just now realizing you were only holding onto a memory of what once was.
Tina on Tue, 13th Jun 2006 3:11 pm
I don’t doubt that you loved him once, I just can fathom just waking up one day and not loving my husband, my best friend and the father of my children.
I hope someday you can look back and say you did the right thing.
He loves you!
Prince on Tue, 13th Jun 2006 3:13 pm
I left someone and totally went off the hook with dating and drinkin. Then I realized that I had a past and a future with some one who’s the bomb and I needed her back
prob was that she was seeing someone else and said she’s happy now. I burned myself and a great chic.
Tina on Tue, 13th Jun 2006 6:37 pm
Prince:
Love can suck! It is the hardest word to define.
Sometimes you need to lose a good thing to appreciate the next.
Keep your eyes and heart open and the next good girl that comes along you will know better! Sorry for your loss.
erin on Wed, 14th Jun 2006 6:29 am
I’m not real sure who you are Tina, but your statement about “waking up one day and not loving my husband” is way off base.
It’s good to see that you have words of encouragement for Ken. That really is great but please don’t speak about me in a way that makes it seem like you know anything about me or how I feel.
My post wasn’t a response to yours, I still check out this site and I was just commenting like everyone else on the topic of letting go.
Prince on Wed, 14th Jun 2006 7:16 am
Good morning all
this is none of my biz but I would like to know if I can quote some of these lines of yours
we love this one
“To “let go†it not to intrude, worry or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings, and correct them.”
good luck and ONE LOVE
Tina on Wed, 14th Jun 2006 4:13 pm
Erin,
Your post was right after mine I just assumed it was a direct comment. Sorry.
Prince on Fri, 16th Jun 2006 2:30 am
CAT FIGHT!!!!
Let’s see a good battle of the mouths here.
erin on Fri, 16th Jun 2006 6:26 am
Sorry to dissapoint ya Prince, there will be no cat fighting going on here.
We’re “letting it go”
Ken Savage on Wed, 28th Jun 2006 11:13 pm
I love my baby’s mama!
sheila on Mon, 30th Jul 2007 9:56 pm
You guys made good comments about letting a person go. Can anyone help me please? I am in the process of remembering the memories of how good it felt waking up in the morning and that person you love was actually looking at you and when you open your eyes, you got yourself a wonderful smile. And somewhere along the way, he realized that you’re one hell of a strong person in character and personality and it scared him off and had gone AWOL. Love could make one stupid sometimes.
Leah on Thu, 27th Sep 2007 2:23 am
Hi, can anyone help me? My x just sent me a msg saying: I’m getting married early next year. It just hurts me a lot ‘coz I still love him. I told him, if he’s happy with it, then I’m happy for him. But deep inside me, I wanna scream and hope that I’ll be the girl he’s gonna marry… He once told me that he still loves me but we already have each other’s gf/bf. I don’t have anything against my bf. he loves me a lot and would do anything just to make me smile. My x also loves his gf but still wants to see me. I really don’t know what to do… anyone pls?
popoy on Thu, 27th Sep 2007 8:45 am
letting go is bullshit!!
Sean on Wed, 28th Nov 2007 3:59 am
Letting go of love is not fair, especially when you’re both deeply in love with each other. How can something so rare be so neccessary to let go of. This is what everyone lives for, love, and to let go of what you live for is like letting go of life itself.
fhey on Fri, 4th Jan 2008 2:43 am
letting go is bullshit..how can i let go of someone his the center of my life even he can never be longer mine!!im in deeply feel of so much pain..
babybei on Sat, 12th Jan 2008 8:27 am
letting you go baby is one way of showing how much i love you, i know in time we’ll be together again. sorry for the mistakes ive done when were together, i never meant to hurt you.. i love you so much bhie, missing you like crazy. im still here, and il wait till everyhtings okay.. -04
Art on Tue, 15th Jan 2008 1:19 pm
I am in the process of letting go. I know of nothing so deep, so intense and so painful, and yet, so right. I have always heard that “if you love something, set it free”, this is the first time I have loved so much I have put them before myself. It is her time to fly and my time to set her free. I just pray that one day she wil grow weary and will fly back to the one that loves her enough to respect her for who she is and who she will become. I love you, Patti. This is for you:
The Reflection of a Tear
01/12/08
The reflection of a tear as it leaves your eye
Could be for a mistake or a last goodbye
As it drips on your cheek it feels so warm
Releasing its pain from which it was born
It grows so cold as it traces down your face
Seems to always be more to keep up the chase
It falls to the floor in an endless stream
Breaking open as if to shatter the dream
Soon they are all gone, all used up, not even a trickle
Your mind regroups, catches itself, you recenter
Left is but a glint of light from the reflection on your cheek
Hidden deep within it is the hope and peace we seek
It is always good to openly cry
It makes you stop and wonder why
And in that… is the growing from the pain!
oz40 on Mon, 28th Jan 2008 10:39 pm
letting go is so hard. someone help me please my wife left me and I still love her.
oz40 on Mon, 28th Jan 2008 10:45 pm
how can I let go of someone who I still hope that she’ll come back
Janyn on Sun, 10th Feb 2008 9:43 pm
Hi oz40. I’m sorry your wife left you. My bf split with me two weeks ago and it’s been hard to let go. I was hanging on to the relationship for a bit, but decided to let him go completely. It hurts. I cried everyday for 2 weeks. And even now I’m bleeding in the inside. But I realize that if he’s the right one for me, he’ll be back. If he doesn’t come back then it was never meant to be.
Alyssa on Wed, 13th Feb 2008 1:03 am
I am losing the love of my life. We have the kind of love that only exists once in a lifetime. Now he is leaving me. This is the worst pain I have ever felt in my life. We still love each other. What I can’t live with is all of the memories.. the memories that will never fade.. and could never be replaced. If he still loves me.. then why is he doing this? I just need to find a way to let go of the only thing that’s ever brought pure happiness to my life.
Shelly on Fri, 21st Mar 2008 6:52 pm
My boyfriend cheated on me 2 months into our relationship. I’ve stayed with him but I never got over it, now I’m leaving, I’m letting him go. Its the hardest thing I have had to do in my entire life, I dont even know if i will make it through this. I cannot stay with him but being without him is just as bad. I just cannot live with what happened in the past.
DALEDZ on Sat, 26th Apr 2008 6:57 am
he SAID..HE LOVES ME..AND LETTING GO OF ME WOULD ME LIKE GOD TAKING HIS LIFE..I WOULD NOT WANT TO LET GO, BUT HE’S TELLING ME THAT IT IS’NT WORKING,.. ACCORDING TO HIM, HE WAS JUST BEING HONEST AND I MUST NOT FEEL SAD AND HOPELESS..I KNOW THINGS GONNA WORK AND THESE BULLSHIT ARGUEMENTS WILL SLOWLY FADE..HOPE I WOULD NOT AND WOULD NEVER END UP CRYING BECAUSE OF MY ONE TRUE LOVE..IT HURTS.. :[
DALEDZ on Sat, 26th Apr 2008 7:01 am
LETTING GO IS BULLSHIT…..
I LEARNED TO LAUGH, I LEARNED TO CRY,BUT WILL I EVER LEARN TO SAY GOODBYE.?
Tiffany on Tue, 29th Apr 2008 5:00 am
I was in a relationship with a boy for 4 years. i loved him with my whole heart. he was my bestfriend. we did everything other, then one day out of nowhere, he breaks up with me. I was devestated. I cried for months, i didnt sleep, i didnt eat, i didnt do anything besides cry. letting go isnt easy, but sometimes we just have to do it. Its hard enough to hold onto things, but tryin to hold onto something that isnt there, makes no sense. It took a long time, but i finally realized that love is about making someone happy. I just wanted him to be happy, so i let him go. I let him have his life. Do i miss him, yes every single day. But sometimes you just cant dwell on the past and just live for the future. We had a great 4 years together and ill carry those memories forever, but i think i owe it to myself to make new memories with someone else. There are somethings that you can change in life, but when it comes down to things you cant change, its just better off to leave them alone. letting go isnt something you can just do, it takes TIME. but in time things always get better. You dont forget, you just forgive, and make the best out of the life you have left.