Free Advice: How To Have Sex And Be Good At It

By Erin | Aug 1, 2007

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This is a kind of an A to Z on How to Have Sex. This may seem like a weird subject to be writing about since I’m a girl but think about it - if you have never had sex before you would probably be curious about the actual “how to”.

Who Am I Going To “Do It” With?

This factor is completely in your hands. It is up to you to get out there with your “looking to meet” attitude and somehow convince someone to have sex with you. Although I can’t tell you exactly what will work, I can give you a few suggestions on things you may want to avoid.

• Don’t try the line, “hey let’s go”
• Although an occasional glance is fine - don’t spend the entire conversation staring at a woman’s big boobs
• Don’t tell a girl that she reminds you of your mom or an aunt
• Don’t come right out and ask “hey, you wanna go have sex?” Occasionally this may work depending on the girl (you know what I mean) but for your first time…I would say to steer clear of that question

I Found Someone To Have Sex With - Now What?

Listen, I am going to assume that since you are reading an article to figure out how to have sex that more than likely you are not living on your own. You probably either live with your parents or in a dorm setting. This living situations poses the question “where am I supposed to do it?”.

Again, I can’t give you the exact answer to that question. What I can do is to suggest some things you may want to consider when choosing the location you will use to do it.

• Choose a low traffic area with a door that can be locked - aka don’t do it in the living room of your parents house
• Make sure that your location is not in the earshot of your parents/roommates - you don’t want them to hear you and you definitely DO NOT want to be able to hear them
• If this is going to happen in your car, make sure it’s not parked somewhere that the cops will be called to check on a suspicious vehicle. Nothing kills the mood faster than being asked to step out of your vehicle half naked. Trust me.

If that doesn’t help you could always GO HERE and get the REAL secrets on having great sex.

I Found A Person And A Location - What’s Next?

Now we’re going to down to the nitty gritty. You have a real live person that is into you and you are in a spot that you can get away with having sex in. How do you make this sex dream a reality?

• Start out by going in for a kiss - who doesn’t like kissing, you know?
• Keep kissing and don’t be too forward at first - no one likes to feel that they are being rushed around the bases (you do know what the bases are right?)
• Here is the killer move which when executed will surely move you along in your quest to have sex: go from a sitting position to a laying position. It’s simple and effective. Once you are both laying everything is lined up perfectly for what comes next.
• At this time, if you are kissing her correctly something will start to happen that she probably isn’t even aware that she is doing: pelvic thrusts. I know… what?, how does that happen? It just does. This is a great segue into what is known as “dry humping” I think the name pretty much explains what goes on here but basically you are simulating sex with your clothes on
• Next you are going to want to concentrate on getting her really turned on…touching, kissing, rubbing
• After a while of this you’re going to want to start peeling off the clothing. If you don’t know how to easily take off a bra…just don’t try. Nothing is worse than sitting through someone fumbling around with your bra and then eventually having to do it yourself anyway…just wait for her to do it.
• Once the clothes are off it’s important not to try and dive right in. You need to continue with the rubbing, touching, licking, tickling…and whatever other things that end with ing that you want to do
• Finally, the time has arrived - you need to suit your little guy up for the occasion. You NEED to use a condom. End of story…put one on
• Once you are suited up it is time for penile penetration. This is where you insert your erect penis into the vagina. If you have done everything right so far, it should easily slide in (wink, wink)
• I’m pretty sure that instinct takes over from here BUT don’t get completely carried away and forget that there is another person there with you. Continue kissing and caressing and trying to make your partner feel as good as possible
• Since this will be your first time unfortunately it will be over pretty quickly - that’s just the way it goes
• Make sure that once you have ejaculated you don’t hang out inside of your partner until you are no longer erect, the condom could come off of a flaccid penis and that is how accidents happen - oops.

Good Night Kiss and Awkward Goodbye

Depending on the relationship that you have with your partner…sometimes the after sex goodbye’s can be kind of awkward. Under no circumstance should you jump right up and start hinting to the fact that it is time for your partner to go. Listen, if you weren’t prepared to hang out with this person for an acceptable period of time post-sex you shouldn’t have been having sex with them in the first place.

If it is the complete opposite and you really like this person…just go with it but DO NOT under and circumstances tell this person that you hardly know that you love them. You may feel like you do but guess what - it’s just the sex and the urge to repeat the sex talking. Hey by all means, feel free to say something like…”If you couldn’t tell, I like you” or “I don’t know if my erection gave it away but I think you’re swell.”

If that doesn’t work try this site cause they taught me a thing or 2 and I’ve been a sex princess for a long time. haha good luck.